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Good Shabbos: How to Achieve It

Shira Yehudit Djlilmand

Shabbos is called the day of rest, but for many mothers, the holiness and rest is elusive. The children are all home, schedules are upturned, and there are three meals to set, serve, and clear. How can experience the simchah and spirituality of Shabbos — together with our children? Family First offers some practical advice and tips, collected from Jewish mothers and grandmothers, but primarily from Rebbetzin Denah Weinberg, principal of EYAHT, who is renowned for her lectures on how to maximize Shabbos.

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

goodShabbos shouldn’t just be the day that comes at the end of the week when we crash, but the highlight that the whole week is leading up to. With this in mind, if we start preparing for Shabbos not on erev Shabbos, but the week before, by the time Shabbos actually comes, we’ll excited and ready to welcome her.

  • All through the week, every time we pick up something good to eat, put it aside for Shabbos. Rebbetzin Weinberg even suggests having a special Shabbos cabinet where you save all the special goodies for Shabbos — and keep it locked!
  • Decide early on in the week what you, and the whole family, will be wearing for Shabbos and make sure everything is in good order — no tears, stains, or missing buttons. Even a small, seemingly trivial thing like a stain on your Shabbos suit can put a stain on your Shabbos ...
  • Make something for Shabbos every day and freeze, not just to save time on Erev Shabbos but to bring an awareness of the upcoming day into every day.

Talk to the kids about Shabbos every day, reminding them that Shabbos is getting closer and closer. They’ll look forward to Shabbos more — and so will you!


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