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Tales of Triumph: Lily’s Story

Riva Pomerantz

My whole philosophy in life, which has evolved over time, is that you always get what you need, but it doesn’t always feel like you’re getting the right thing as you’re going through it. Actually, looking back, I realize I even had this outlook as a teenager, and as you hear my life story you may wonder at my philosophy, but I firmly maintain its truth.

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

butterflyIn the end, I have seen that challenges turn out to be real blessings, if you’re able to shape them that way in your mind. A person can either choose to be resentful his whole life, complaining about all the difficulties that come his way, or he can just accept that this is somehow for the good and ultimately start to recognize the positive benefits that come from the challenges.

There’s my philosophy in a nutshell. And now — my story!

My childhood consisted of a middle-class American, nonreligious upbringing. My parents were both not Jewish, but we did not go to any religious services whatsoever, and to them,Lincoln’s birthday was no different than Halloween or the Fourth of July. But I did have one grandmother who was sort of spiritual and in the summertime, which we spent with her on theNew Jerseyshore, we sometimes went to Bible class together. My recollection was that we learned about the Patriarchs and Esther and Ruth, and I think these experiences gave me a certain interest in religion.


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