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Rachel Bachrach

The issue: Your daughter is on the chunky side. Black outfits are more slimming, but she wants to wear that lilac skirt all her classmates have. The fix: Let it go — no need to go black! Everyone wants to look their age; your child wants to be in the same color as all of her friends. Sometimes we mothers put more stock in how good our kids look than they do. If she looks up-to-date, she’ll feel good about herself, and that’s what it’s really all about.

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

The issue: Your 11-year-old is taller than you. How does a mother help a five-foot five-inch ’tween look her age, and not like she’s in high school?

The fix: Separates are good for both extremes — very tall or very short. We sell ladies’ and children’s clothing, so we can bounce these girls between the two departments: get an age-appropriate top from kids’, and a long-enough skirt from ladies’. For the top, you want something with a longer torso that gathers a little at the bottom, maybe with a belt. You don’t want her in something so long and straight she looks like a pole.

Unsolicited advice: You want her to look good, but not too good. I just had a young teen put on something that was so attractive it just wasn’t age-appropriate.

—Sima Goldstein, owner of Hats to Hose inBaltimore,Maryland

The fix: Skirts with elastic waistbands were made for her! They’re very young and flattering, and with a fun top or blouse, they can do the trick.

Did you know: A colored top with a solid skirt or vice versa is fresh and fun and will help someone tall look less lanky. Just don’t go monochromatic, since that will accentuate her height.

—Simcha Teren, owner of Simcha’s Spectacular inCleveland,Ohio


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