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ADHD Homes Made to Order

Yael Wiesner

Women with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) often have difficulty maintaining a well-functioning home. But they are not doomed to live in disorder and chaos forever. Here are tried-and-true homemaking strategies that take advantage of the way the ADHD mind works.

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

“Wash the dishes as you clear the table, instead of putting them into the sink. It’s a shame to let them sit and become an unwanted project for later.”

She’s assuming I remember to clear the table after dinner…

“For a quick cleanup of the living room before your husband or guests arrive, run around with an empty laundry basket and throw in all the miscellaneous items floating around. Schedule a time each day to return everything from the basket to its place.” An empty laundry basket? Ha! Schedule a time each day! As if I have a schedule … Return everything to its place?! What if I don’t know where it goes?

“Make a weekly menu plan, transform it to a standard weekly shopping list, and go shopping every Monday for the entire week’s menu.” I’m spontaneous and creative in my cooking. How can I know on Monday which ingredients I’ll need on Wednesday?

These ladies sit at the back of my home management classes, desperate for a solution to the home management problems plaguing them. They listen attentively to practical ideas that have helped many, yet they look at me as if I were speaking Chinese.

“I never read home management books or columns — they never flow with my rhythm,” says Chani, an ADD mother of seven.

Atara, a busy mother with ADHD, adds, “I can’t plug myself into standard home management ideas. They have to come from a different angle.” As a home management consultant, I believe that every woman has the ability to run her home smoothly. It’s a matter of finding the ideas and strategies that work for her.


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