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Bring back the Blessing

C. Rosenberg

On Rosh Hashanah, three great women — Sarah, Rachel, and Chana — were remembered by Hashem and granted a child. The day remains a time of hope for those dreaming of another baby. Some of these women don’t return from shul to a silent home; they’ve been blessed with a child, or two, or more. But the blessing has slipped from their grasp, and they grapple with the challenges of secondary infertility. A glimpse at the experience.

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

From: Shevi Silber Sent: March 26, 8:28 p.m. To: Ilana Berger Subject: STEWING “She has one, and now it’s time for a cat and dog!” Can you believe someone actually said that?!??? The insinuation, the accusation! WHAT IS SHE THINKING? Doesn’t she know I’d give up my high-powered job in an instant, throw away my high heels and sheitel collection for the chance to live in slippers, stretchy skirts, and snoods? Can’t people understand that my career is a pathetic attempt to fill a void which can never be filled? The one that yearns to hold and mother a newborn again? The one that is dying to embrace and squeeze another child with the love trapped within me? Don’t they understand that it’s because I’m frying only a sparse few cutlets for dinner, and because I have but one school play and PTA meeting a year that I must have that job? I didn’t choose this!!!!!!!!   From: Ilana Berger Sent: March 26, 11:32 p.m. To: Shevi Silber Subject: Re: STEWING Ugh, Shevi. I’m so sorry. People are so insensitive — and they don’t even mean to be. You wish they’d think, just once, before they open their mouths. As if you’d ever get a dog anyway! (I could maybe see you with a cat….) HUGS!☺

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