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Surprise!

Yisrael Rutman

People say that life is full of surprises. They’re right. (No surprise.) We don’t know what will happen tomorrow. We don’t even know what will happen a moment from now. Will the phone ring? Will somebody fall and get hurt? Will the baby start crying? Will the baby stop crying? Will Mashiach come? The truth is, life would be boring without surprises.

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Scientists have been studying surprise. They watched people and wrote down their reactions when surprised. What do you think they saw? Raised eyebrows? Right. Wide-open eyes? Right. Jaws dropping? Right again. You need a scientific study to tell you this? Well, they did discover something you might not have guessed: that facial expression isn’t necessarily connected with the actual experience of surprise. Meaning, just because a person doesn’t look surprised, doesn’t mean he or she isn’t. Some people show their emotions less than others. So, if you go to all the trouble of throwing a surprise party for someone and they don’t look so surprised, it’s okay. They’re probably so surprised inside that their outside hasn’t caught up with it yet.

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