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Bassi Gruen

For years we’ve wanted to make aliyah, but practical concerns have kept us in the States. Recently, I hit a milestone birthday, and it made me realize that life is short, and if I don’t make my dreams come true, they may never happen. I decided that we’d make aliyah and we’d make it work, however hard it may be.

Tuesday, May 05, 2015

Rabbi Zev Leff The ultimate purpose of aliyah to Eretz Yisrael, in addition to fulfilling the mitzvos unique to Eretz Yisrael and the mitzvah of yishuv Eretz Yisrael, is to enhance one’s Torah observance. Aliyah must be not only physical and geographical, but spiritual as well. In order to achieve this, having a decent parnassah, sippuk hanefesh (fulfillment) from that parnassah, and a proper environment and education for oneself and one’s children, are crucial. I appreciate your dream to settle in Eretz Yisrael, but based on the information you provided, that dream could easily turn into a nightmare. I would suggest you carefully plan exactly how your parnassah can be arranged. This is achieved by doing reasonable hishtadlus, taking into consideration the impact on your family. Having a husband and father absent from the family for a considerable portion of the month may or may not be reasonable for your specific situation. Additionally, your daughter’s educational options should be carefully investigated, to ensure you will find a place suitable for her. Only after these issues are resolved suitably should you consider this great mitzvah. And then it will in fact be the fulfillment of a dream and not the beginning of a nightmare that will end in your returning to chutz l’Aretz, probably for good. Hence, it is better to delay your aliyah until you have resolved these issues. If you do so, you may come later, but your chances of staying will be far greater.

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