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Inside Job: Life as a Party Planner

Rachel Bachrach

Three women take you behind the scenes, revealing how they make your simchah run without a hitch — and why everyone needs to stay calm when (not if — when!) things don’t go exactly as planned.

Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Frumi Metz, 32, lives in Far Rockaway. She’s been working as a party planner in the Five Towns for six years.   Think you want to be a party planner? You’d better be very __________ patient. Your clients will change their mind a few times over the course of the planning — either in terms of taste or because of their budget — and you need to wait for them to figure out what they want. Also, you need to be sensitive to people’s needs; their simchah is an expression of who they are, you’re there to help them express it. Last, you need to be detail-oriented, because once you’re hired, your client doesn’t worry about the details: accepting deliveries, coordinating with the caterer, placing the bentshers on the table, setting out the place cards — those small things that go into making a simchah are your responsibility. The preparation and planning can be stressful, which is why I love being a part of it all; I’m helping people navigate their simchah so they can truly enjoy it.   and you’d better not mind… making last-minute decisions. You could be so organized, have everything lined up, and still you’ll have to decide things on the fly. I remember a bar mitzvah I did, the mechitzah was a wall of water, like an upside-down waterfall. It looked beautiful, but it took up a lot of electricity, and once the band and lighting were there, we realized the hall couldn’t handle it — there wasn’t enough electricity to go around. We made it work: we dimmed the lights, moved the band to a different spot in the room, and the mechitzah stayed up.

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