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You’re Not My Mother!

Avigail Rosenberg

Blended families can be beautiful, but they also entail endless hard work, grueling avodas hamiddos, and many extra responsibilities. Check out what these experienced stepmoms do when a sticky stepparenting situation arises — and what the experts have to say.

Tuesday, December 01, 2015

My eight-year-old stepson views me as public enemy number one for marrying his tatty and (in his mind, at least) tearing his father away from the family unit. He told me the other day that his tatty should divorce me and remarry his mother. Not happening! The constant nastiness and caustic comments are really hurtful.   From the trenches: It’s so difficult to deal with these statements, especially when all I do is give to these kids — doing their laundry, cooking their meals, cleaning up after them. I try really hard to take myself out of the situation and just see that the kid is in pain. The more I let go, the better things go. —Talya, Lakewood, stepmother of four  My stepkids are clueless about what went on in their parents’ marriage, and it’s not my place to enlighten them or defend their father’s choices. I wish I could help them make sense of everything, but as that’s pretty much out of my control, I try to provide a warm, loving environment for them when they’re here.   —Sara, Yerushalayim, stepmother of three.

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