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Bassi Gruen

I’ve been in yeshivah in Eretz Yisrael for several years. Every so often, I get invited by various relatives for Shabbos, to a simchah, or to meet up at a restaurant. Although I’ve never felt comfortable enough to ask them directly, I’m nearly certain that they rely on hechsherim I don’t eat. This leaves me with a few options, none of which are particularly appealing.

Wednesday, December 16, 2015

Rav Yirmiyohu Kaganoff In this situation, you should seek guidance from your rav or rebbi regarding your specific situation. I can only provide general guidelines and background. Your question involves several sensitivities, and the conflicts that arise between them. On the one hand, you have a strong desire to maintain high standards in a very important area of halachah — ands that’s commendable. On the other hand, you don’t want to hurt or antagonize your relatives — also a crucial goal.   Halachah is sensitive to dilemmas like this. Here’s one example: If someone is careful to use only pas Yisrael, and a guest brings with him bread that is superior in quality, but is not pas Yisrael, the host should make hamotzi on the guest’s bread and may eat that bread for the entire meal, notwithstanding that ordinarily he’d be required to perform hataras nedarim (annulling of vows) before doing so. Halachah recognizes that the mitzvah of hachnassas orchim allows eating bread that one would normally reject because of its inferior kashrus rather than make the guest uncomfortable.

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