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Avoid the Therapy Merry-Go-Round

Shalvi Waldman M.Sc.

12 tips to maximize your therapeutic experience so that the issues that ail don’t make therapy fail.

Wednesday, February 24, 2016

Meira, Reuven, andMiriam all came to therapy with some degree of hope that it would change their lives for the better but the very issues that brought them to therapy are sabotaging their progress. Meira’s difficulty in making decisions makes her unsure if the therapist is a good fit for her. Reuven’s lack of trust makes it hard for him to trust his therapist, andMiriam’s critical eye is turned against her therapist. This therapy merry-go-round trap is a challenging phenomenon. Every experienced therapist has dealt with it, and many clients are in danger of falling in, but surprisingly, it’s rarely discussed. People go to therapy because something hurts. That “something” is usually an issue that has been affecting their lives for a while, possibly in various areas: at work, with family, and with friends. Often the issues that cause so much trouble in people’s lives cause the same types of trouble in therapy. If the client and therapist are not aware of what’s going on and committed to working on it, the same issue that brought the client to therapy can be the very issue that makes them walk away. Not all therapists take the time to orient clients to therapy and explain how they can make the most of their experience. By understanding and applying these tips, you can avoid sabotaging your therapy experience and get the best bang for your buck.

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