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Made in Heaven

As told to Chany Rosenberg

Dating in the chassidish world baffles, mystifies, and is even looked upon askance by many. But in fact, it works, and works well. One chassidish girl’s dating diary, as well as a description of the system.

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Wednesday, Feb 27 After two weeks of calling, calling, calling, we’re finally ready to go ahead. Tatty spoke to the bochur’s rosh yeshivah, friends, neighbors, and everyone else he thought could shed light on this shidduch suggestion. I’ve never seen Tatty on the phone so much — the receiver was glued to his ear for hours each evening. I know what’s important to me in a husband, and Tatty and I sat down and discussed how it compared to the information he received. Middos — check. Yiras Shamayim — check. Simchas hachayim — check. Generous, caring, giving, strong connection to a mashpia, sensitive, emotionally healthy — check, check, check, and check. And then there are the bonuses: tall and handsome; sense of humor; warm, stable family; chassidishe varemkeit. Is it too perfect to be true? Does this boy I’ve heard so much about really exist?

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