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What’s Your Normal?

Chevy Kepecs

Personality tests show that “normal” means different things for different people. Their purpose isn’t to label people or pigeonhole them into specific groups, but to make us aware of our basic characteristics

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

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I once heard a saying, “Normal exists only in the washing-machine cycle.” If you think about it, you’ll realize it’s true. We’re all individuals with different personalities, and what may seem normal to you will seem bizarre to someone else. That’s where personality systems come in…

Just like the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, developed by Isabel Briggs Myers, and her mother, Katharine Briggs), which separates people into 16 categories, the Enneagram is another personality system, dividing people into nine categories. 

The Enneagram (expanded by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson) is not a contradiction to the Myers-Briggs system; these two work hand in hand. For example, an Enneagram Type FIVE is likely to be an INTP or INTJ in the Myers-Briggs system, while an Enneagram Type FOUR is likely to be an INFP or INFJ. Confused? Read on!

The purpose of these personality systems isn’t to label people or pigeonhole them into specific groups, but to help us become aware of our basic characteristics (basic, as no two people are alike!).

This allows us to better understand ourselves, accept ourselves, as well as gain an awareness about which traits to work on. Personality systems also teach us not to judge others.

As already mentioned, there’s no such thing as “normal.” Got that? While you might have a fairly easy time resisting certain temptations, your classmate who has a different personality than you might struggle far more in that area. There’s no “best” type. It’s all about what you choose to do with your specific personality traits. Every type has a “healthy” and “unhealthy” version.

The following is a test I designed to help teens figure out their Enneagram type. We’re all really made up of all the Enneagram types; nobody is entirely one number. This test will just help you discover your core type.


We also have wings, the numbers attached to our main type. 
For example, if you are a SIX, you will either be a SIX with a FIVE wing or a SIX with a SEVEN wing — this means that even though SIX is your main type, your wing will also contribute to your personality.

One wing is usually more dominant than the other (i.e., a SIX with a SEVEN wing as opposed to a SIX with a FIVE wing), but some people are “double-winged.” Some people’s wings are also stronger than others’ and will have a greater influence on their personalities. 

Take the following test to discover your core type, your wing, and other types of character traits that strongly affect your personality!

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