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SisterSchmooze: Unique Visits

Marcia Stark Meth / Emmy Leah Stark Zitter / Miriam Stark Zakon

The places we visit need not be remarkable. It’s our interaction with these places that make our visits “unique”

Wednesday, December 20, 2017

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visit to the Dead Sea gives Miriam…

Getaway Takeaways 

A tendril of sunshine wound its way through the wooden latticework on my porch and tapped me gently on the shoulder, looking for attention.

It couldn’t have come at a better time. After three weeks of intense deadline pressure for me, and a virus that wouldn’t disappear for my husband, we were oh-so-ready for warmth and a touch of leisure. Heeding the call of the sun, we turned to a last-minute travel website, found a good deal, and after a few clicks and a half hour of throwing things into a suitcase, we were off for an unplanned visit to the Dead Sea.

One of the great things about a quick vacation is the time it gives you to think about stuff — not the usual to-do list, but simply random musings about life. Here are some of the thoughts I carried home with me: my top four takeaways from our visit to Yam Hamelach.

1. Change your position. It was women’s hours in the spa, and I was so comfortable, floating on the warm, caressing, oil- and mineral-filled waters of the indoor Dead Sea pool, staring at the sparkling blue sky through the enormous skylight overhead. I was tired and relaxed and absolutely didn’t want to move. After a while, reluctantly, I changed my position, bobbing cross-legged on the water, and was immediately mesmerized by the gorgeous reflection of the sun’s rays on the bottom of the pool. And the thought filtered into my half-dozing brain: Meem, you get comfortable, you like where you are — but if you don’t sometimes change your position, your perspective on life, you’ll miss out on the new and beautiful.

2. Healing can hurt. Dead Sea salt contains 21 different minerals beneficial for healing. But try stepping into that gorgeous blue water with a small scrape on your leg, like I did. Whoa! It stings like — pouring salt into a wound. Which is, indeed, what you’re doing.

Relationships are a little like that, too. Sometimes, to heal a breach, you have to accept the sting of apologies. The throb of vulnerability.

The burning sensation of admitting you were wrong. And healing yourself, your own spiritual and emotional wounds? More salt, more pain. More healing. 

3. The food is good. But you belong outside. Fly. Sitting in the large, glass-enclosed dining area, eating my second home-baked, hot croissant (calories were another takeaway of this trip…), I noticed a family of small birds, which I later identified as Dead Sea sparrows, having a grand time pecking at the crumbs on the floors. They were cute, and I admired them, but then I thought, with a touch of sadness: Hey, guys, you should be flying. It’s hard to find food out there, but you’re missing the sky above you, the wind beneath your wings.

A life of ease and luxury seems nice, but make sure you leave yourself some time to fly. Don’t get trapped by the crumbs. (Excerpted from Family First, Issue 572)

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